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Life is just a kaleidoscope of streets. The moment you pass one street, you’re onto another and one day you stop and you realize how far you’ve come. You remember what you’ve seen. You think about the people who have come into your life. The next thing you know, you’ve ended up on a street that’s completely unfamiliar but the best place you’ve ever been. You could be standing on a street that signifies that it’s time you get married. Then you pass onto the next street and you’re ready to have babies. Life is a bunch of great streets. And once you have children, you have to cross even more streets while holding onto small hands. It’s not easy being a parent. It’s the biggest street you have to cross. Here is some advice to deal with children.

From Breakfast to Bedtime - helping you and your children through the day!

We all have those meltdown moments when our toddler decides they will do precisely the opposite to what we want them to do.....

Now help is at hand!

Here is some advice for parents of young children on dealing with those difficult times in the day - the morning rush, the supermarket, playtime and bedtime. It offers practical advice and tips from parents as well as useful information on understanding your child's needs and how to meet them.

Meltdown Moments

The Morning Rush.... This can turn into the most chaotic time of the day, especially if you're going to work and dropping off at the childminders, nursery, school...and everyone's taking a different bag with them! Making some extra time to get organised and involving children in the routine can help to get everybody out of the door on time without too many hitches. Laura cleans her teeth with her 2-year-old son, to encourage him and to make sure it's a part of their morning routine. Getting into a routine may be helpful in encouraging cooperation - if your child knows pretty much what happens each morning, they'll hopefully be more prepared for not being able to watch endless videos or having every toy out before you have to leave. "I try to get clothes out and make up their packed lunches the night before - it gives me a bit of extra time in the morning".

At the Supermarket.... It's one of those things that has to be done, that no one particularly enjoys, especially with young children in tow. The main difficulties here are keeping your child separate from the array of crisps, sweets and toys aimed at them, and, if the worst happens, other people's reactions to your child's behaviour. Distraction can work wonders - singing, I-spy, counting tins on the shelf or a small toy brought along with you can help keep roving eyes and fingers occupied. Or involving your child in some small way - choosing one packet of biscuits, or the brand of yoghurt she likes. The hard part is other people's reactions. Honey is mum to a lively 2-year-old boy and his sister who's 8. She suggests that people are really breathing a sigh of relief that it's not their child having a tantrum and this is perhaps a good thing to bear in mind! "If your child does have a tantrum, try and ride the storm, keep her from hurting herself and wait until she's calmed down before trying to do anything else".

Playtime.... Sharing with other children is a very hard concept for young children to grasp and probably can't be expected until much later on. Getting together somewhere neutral - the park or a drop in centre - can take the heat off as any toys or equipment are public property. Louise, who is mum to three children under 10, uses a kitchen timer to ensure that each child gets an equal amount of time with any particular toy. Her sons agree that it's a fair system and helps to avoid arguments about whose turn it is. "If she's got herself really upset, I try and take her somewhere else so she can calm down - she still has to know she can't fight, but it's better doing that somewhere quiet".

Bedtime.... If you're a working parent, time can be very pressured in that rush between getting home and bedtime. And this is the time when your child probably wants to spend time with you the most. Again, involving children in the jobs that need to be done and setting time aside for a bedtime routine helps everyone to know what's going to happen and ensures your child gets that special time with you. Sarah describes how the bath, bottle, bed routine that she's set up with her 2 year old helps them through the transition from daytime to bedtime as smoothly as possible. "We've just started giving him a five minute warning so he knows he's got a bit more time to play then it's bedtime".

Trying to work at Home.If you are trying to make extra money as many mother's and are doing some work at home, such as sewing, ironing or doing something on the internet, how do you juggle the time you need with the never ending demands of your children? I still don't know the answer to that one! But before you race off to buy your anti anxiety medications from take a big deep breath and realise that the children must sleep sometime and if you just commit yourself to go with the flow, the Universe will provide the time you need.

Understanding Your Child's Needs.... Difficult times are more likely to happen when children are bored or frustrated. How you respond to them and how you are feeling can sometimes turn a simple task into a battle of wills. , Julie, mother to three children under 10, describes how she copes when her children are arguing, and says that experience has shown her that if she loses her temper it makes the situation worse. She finds that the situation is usually far easier to sort out if she can try to stay calm and composed. "If children really get into an activity, they're less likely to be posting the remote control in the bin or wrestling with a brother or sister! If you've got a lot to do in a short space of time, set up an activity that will give you that all important extra half and hour".